6 things I’ve learned about myself after 14 years of holding this title of Mommy and a VIVI jewelry giveaway!

Congrats to our winner Denise M.

I’ve been a mother for 14 years- and I don’t think any of the advice I got about how all encompassing this job of raising another human would be- could have prepared me for how much my role as a parent has informed and shaped the way I live my life. The truth is- try as hard as I might it is REALLY hard for me to remember that 25 year old just married newlywed who got up in the morning and JUST FOCUSED on what lipstick I’d wear that day. Or that woman who would spend HOURS at flea markets searching for the perfect tea cup or who would get herself a pint of Thai Noodles and not leave the apartment for two days.

6 things I've learned about myself after 14 years of holding this title of Mommy and a VIVI jewelry giveaway!

I’m not going to lie and say I don’t miss a little bit of that freedom that childless woman had-the ability to be so completely and utterly self absorbed and narcissistic– unfortunately I didn’t realize what I TRULY had until I became a mother. And while I have learned so much about my limitations and shortcomings in these past 14 years I’ve also uncovered things about myself I otherwise never would have come to know… I’ve also learned that being a mom is so all encompassing it can be pretty darn easy to get lost in the shuffle- which is PRECISELY WHY I LOVE MOTHER’S DAY as it provides me with a day that I can be selfish and indulge in ME and yes EXPECT to be draped in some kind of bauble. And in case you need a few ideas to “pass along” to ensure they get included in your mother’s day gift/wish list- here are some of my favorite pieces which include Kenneth Cole’s Connect and ViVi jewelry and the best part I AM GIVING two of them away to one lucky reader! KEEP READING!!

#1 Tom and Jerry is a REALLY funny cartoon. It’s true I never liked Tom and Jerry as a kid- I always thought it was weird watching all action and no dialogue. But since my son has been GLUED to their antics for the past 10 years I can say, I’ve learned to enjoy their repertoire- although I’ve had to point out more than several  dozen times that if Jerry gets steamrolled by a Mac truck he will survive- while my kid- won’t have the luxury of getting over it. ( I think the lesson is finally beginning to hold some weight with him).

#2 I have NO PATIENCE. Yeah, 14 years of motherhood and I still don’t know how to handle a kid asking me if he can eat  a brownie for dinner 18 thousand times until he wears me down to a little nub and I acquiesce .

#3 My memory is SHOT. I want to say that I am one of those  uber incredible moms who remembers her kids’ first words, the day they took their first steps and all those other milestones. I probably should have written them down- but I must have been too busy raising my kid to remember to DOCUMENT it all. And so I have been known to fudge those details when  my kids ask me for specifics.

#4 I have a REALLY hard time letting the mess just be. You’d think after reading all these pins about zen in motherhood and how happy kids whose houses are dirty are, and who mothers  don’t stress over papers, dust bunnies, toys and teen magazines strewn in ever nook and cranny are- but alas I CANNOT be one of those mothers. I cannot live in chaos, it is NOT happy for me- although perhaps my kids would disagree.  Perhaps this means I’m setting my kids up for a life in analysis, lamenting their anal retentive mother who vacuumed almost every other day and how it has either turned them into obsessive cleaners or created an aversion to mess and has caused them to be cast in an episode of HOARDERS.

#5 That I can’t nor do I even want to fathom a life without these kids and just hope I don’t screw them up too bad!

#6 That JEWELRY also makes everything better. Being a mom is so all encompassing it can be pretty darn easy to get lost in the shuffle- which is PRECISELY WHY I LOVE MOTHER’S DAY as it provides me with a day that I can be selfish and indulge in ME and yes EXPECT to be draped in some kind of bauble. And in case you need a few ideas to “pass along” to ensure they get included in your mother’s day gift/wish list- here are some of my favorite pieces and the best part I AM GIVING two of them away to one lucky reader!

For the mom who LOVES her tech with some bling gift her a tech-trendy gift at an affordable price with
Kenneth Cole Connect. The sophisticated line of smart watches for $150 or less boasts 12 versatile styles — from a sleek stainless steel bracelet to a summery white strap — so that you are sure to find one that fits her unique style.
For the mom who LOVES her tech with some bling gift her a tech-trendy gift at an affordable price with Kenneth Cole Connect. The sophisticated line of smart watches for $150 or less boasts 12 versatile styles -- from a sleek stainless steel bracelet to a summery white strap -- so that you are sure to find one that fits her unique style
Kenneth Cole Connect smart watches allow you to “Be Smart With Your Time” by staying discreetly connected with alerts that go straight to your wrist. So this Mother’s Day, enjoy brunch with the family without phones on the table. Plus you can take a memorable family selfie with the ability to take selfies longer than your arm (like a selfie stick)!
The smart watches start at $135 and are available at your local Macy’s, Dillard’s, Lord & Taylor, Belk and Bon Ton, as well as online.
Win this  VIVI Jewelry's STRIKING A BALANCE GARNET NECKLACE • Genuine crystal • from http://www.thestatenislandfamily.com
And for moms who just need a bit of BLING in their lives VIVI Jewelry is the WAY to go and I’m giving away two STUNNING pieces!
Win this VIVI Jewelry's STRIKING A BALANCE GARNET NECKLACE • Genuine crystal from http://www.thestatenislandfamily.com

And win these VIVI BLACK DIAMOND TEARDROP EARRINGS Genuine crystal 

 win these VIVI BLACK DIAMOND TEARDROP EARRINGS Genuine crystal from http://www.thestatenislandfamily.com

How utterly divine are these??

 win these VIVI BLACK DIAMOND TEARDROP EARRINGS Genuine crystal from http://www.thestatenislandfamily.com

For a chance to win this VIVI Jewelry’s STRIKING A BALANCE genuine crystal GARNET NECKLACE and VIVI BLACK DIAMOND Genuine crystal TEARDROP EARRINGS  you must Follow @melissaSChapman on Twitter, TWEET this giveaway  and leave a comment here that you did so. For another chance to win you must FOLLOW  The Staten Island Family on Facebook and leave a comment that you did so.  For another entry you can subscribe to our YOU TUBE CHANNEL and leave a comment here that you did so. For another entry you  can Follow MelissaSChapman on Instagram and leave a comment here that you did so! For Another entry you can  follow MelissaSChapman on Pinterest . And for another Entry you can follow Melissa Chapman on Google +  and leave a comment here that you did so! GOOD LUCK giveaway ends May 18th!

Happy Mother’s day- what have you learned about yourself since becoming a MOTHER?

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